Monday, September 30, 2013

My Response to the Ordain Women Movement--An Open Letter to My Daughters



Author's note . . . when I wrote this a couple years ago, it was according to my best understanding at the time. And although I continue to stand behind most of what is written, I have come to understand since then that women DO have priesthood authority and it is this priesthood authority that allows women as well as men to participate in the work of salvation. I will write more about this at a future date, but for anyone interested now, please check out the talk given at General Conference by Elder Dallin H. Oaks, April 2014, The Keys and Authority of the Priesthood.

Dear Daughters,

In regard to all the chatter about the ordain women movement, there are a few things I hope you will keep in mind.

First—Remember our purpose here on earth. We are here to learn to become like our Heavenly Father so that we can return to live with Him and qualify for all the blessings that He has to give. Our goal truly is to become like God. We do this by following the example of His Son and diligently striving to develop His attributes.

Motherhood and the Relief Society program are both part of a woman’s spiritual tutorial in Godhood. As we selflessly give of ourselves as mothers and learn to love and serve others through the Relief Society program, we are developing godlike attributes—charity, patience, selfless service, sacrifice, kindness, humility, knowledge, just to name a few.

Fatherhood and the Priesthood are the spiritual tutorials for men to help them develop godlike attributes. As they serve as fathers and in their priesthood responsibilities, they too are developing charity, patience, selfless service, humility, knowledge etc. Both the Relief Society program and the Priesthood are separate but equal opportunities for every person to specifically learn to become like our Heavenly Father in ways that best benefit each gender. One is not better, neither is one less. They both have the exact same purpose, and both, if applied in our lives, will help us obtain the exact same blessing—Eternal Life.

Second— The oath and covenant of the priesthood found in D&C 84, not only pertains to priesthood authority, but also to priesthood ordinances. Although women are not ordained to priesthood offices, and therefore do not have priesthood authority, through their righteousness they may receive every blessing available to men—in the exact same way men do—through making and keeping priesthood ordinances and covenants.

Therefore, when the scripture says “whoso is faithful unto the obtaining these two priesthoods . . . “  (D&C 84:34) it not only refers to men who obtain priesthood authority through ordination, but ALL people of BOTH genders who obtain priesthood ordinances.

The ordinance of the Aaronic Priesthood is baptism. This is available freely to men and women equally. The ordinances of the Melchizedek Priesthood are the Gift of the Holy Ghost and the ordinances available in the temple. All of which are available equally to women as they are to men. The only qualifier is personal righteousness.

The blessings of receiving these priesthood ordinances are exactly the same for men as they are for women—both are promised Eternal Life with our Heavenly Father, or in other words, God’s life—with all power, knowledge and authority that He has.
A man is not promised more or less than a woman, and a woman is not promised more or less than a man. And in fact, Godhood, the crowning blessing on the covenant path, is ONLY available to a man and a woman TOGETHER who have been sealed in the temple, and have honored their covenants through magnifying their callings—as mother and father, and as a woman and a man. No man can obtain it alone, nor can any woman.

Third—A word of caution. Again, remember our purpose here on earth is to learn to become like our Heavenly Father by following Christ’s example. In the pre-mortal world, when Heavenly Father announced His plan for our progression, the Savior willingly submitted to His Father’s will and agreed to be our Savior, with the glory going to the Father. However—by willingly submitting to God’s will, the Savior obtained all the blessings of Heavenly Father, which included glory, power and authority.

Satan on the other hand, was not willing to submit and sought to overthrow God’s will in order to obtain personal power and glory. Yet, in the end he found himself outside the plan of salvation without any power (that we don’t give him over us) and without any glory. When we strive to impose our will on God for our personal glory and gain, we will in the end, like Satan, lose everything.

In conclusion--The ONLY way for any of us to have power, authority and glory, the ONLY way to have happiness in this life and in the next and the ONLY way to have Eternal Life—the greatest of all the gifts of God—is through developing Christlike attributes through the making and keeping of sacred priesthood covenants. And one of the very best ways to keep those covenants, and therefore develop those attributes is through our gender specific God given tutorials—priesthood authority, the Relief Society and parenthood.

Love,
Mom

Wednesday, October 3, 2012

She's Off To The MTC!!

Our daughter Kathryn (center) went into the MTC today. She will be serving in the Guatemala City North Mission. After three weeks in the MTC in Provo, she will travel to Guatemala where she will complete her MTC training. 
Here she is by the MTC with her drop off party--My dad, Michelle, Kristen (both daughters) and Kristen's husband Peter. In front, under the blanket are Kristen's twin boys. 
We so much appreciate you all giving her a nice send off!!
We are so excited for her. After serving a mission myself, I know this will be an experience that will bless her life forever. 

And mostly I can't wait to start getting her letters!! 

Tuesday, July 24, 2012

Guadalajara Mission Blog

I have not had time to keep up this blog, but I did update our mission blog (finally!). You can go to it at www.guadalajaramexicomission.blogspot.com

I have some pictures of our house, the mission and what we have been doing the past three weeks.

Before coming I made it a goal to look for the miracle in our lives every day. I haven't seen a miracle every day, but I have seen several. For one thing I totally LOVE Mexico. This is a miracle because I lived in Mexico City for 6 months right after we were married and it was not a positive experience. It took me 25 years before I had the courage to go back to that city.  So, I was nervous about moving here.

BUT . . . I have loved it all. I don't even really mind the traffic.

Second . . . I have a bad back that has caused me a lot of grief over the years. I am still having problems with it, but nowhere near as much as I did before the mission. I think that is pretty miraculous.

And third . . . you would have to know the story behind this to truly see the miracle, but I have never wanted to speak Spanish in front of my husband due to a bad experience I had with him when I was in the MTC and he was my language tester. Consequently I forgot most of what I learned.

However, from the day I arrived I have been willing to try. I speak all the time, I just don't always make sense. I think the language has been the biggest challenge for me, but I am plugging along with it--and that is pretty miraculous too! I just feel bad for the sick missionaries who have to try and communicate their illnesses to me while I am learning their language.

I have also been very blessed to have my daughters here with us. After being gone all day long it has been nice to come home to dinner waiting for us on the table. They have been such troopers, going to different wards every Sunday, all of which only speak Spanish, helping cook food for the missionaries, memorizing their testimonies in Spanish for zone conferences  . . . It will be very lonely when they leave.

But in the meantime, all of this is bringing great . . . joy to my journey!


Friday, July 6, 2012

How We Are Spending Our 30th Anniversary!!

Five years ago we celebrated our 25th anniversary by taking our five children to Israel for 10 days.
We had such a wonderful time and enjoyed being together in the Holy Land.

But what a difference five years can make!!

Today is our 30th anniversary. Our family of seven has become 16 officially and this year we are celebrating in Mexico!!

Are all of our children with us this time?  . . .  No. Just these two.


Are we celebrating by hanging out at the beach? Well, not exactly.

Visiting the Mayan ruins? Ummmm no.

It is better than that!! We are having zone conferences!! Today we met with two zones, one in the early morning and the other right after that.

And it was pure joy!! After one week in Guadalajara, we have met three zones, and are learning to get around the city. This coming week we will be headed out of town for a mission tour. We are loving our time here and can't wait until we have met all our new "children"--all 147 of them!

Kind of makes you wonder what the next five years will bring . . . :-)

Saturday, June 30, 2012

We Are Here!! Life in Guadalajara!

We have arrived!! After a wonderful five days of MTC training where we feasted both spiritually and physically, we packed our bags and flew south to rainy Guadalajara, Mexico!  We spent last evening with the outgoing mission president and his wife and much of today getting unpacked, and learning our way around the city.

And Wes is having to get used to being on call 24/7 (with the phone ringing very frequently) while I have been praying no one will call me with an illness until I learn the language and get a nursing degree.

In the meantime . . . here are a few pictures from the past twenty four hours!

Here we are with all our luggage at the Phoenix Airport with our 8 suitcases. (Four of them were mine:-)


And here we are a few hours later,  meeting the outgoing president and the office staff.


Dinner at the mission office with the staff.

A picture of our new house. The previous one was over 40 years old and so the church just bought this one--three days before we moved in. They did an amazing job getting it livable before we arrived!




Here is my "office"  (I don't really have any where to put all my study materials, computer, teaching supplies etc, so I plan to take over the kitchen.

And here is Wes' office--taken from the family room. It has some really nice built in bookcases across one of the walls.

And here is the view from one of the balconies. We have two balconies. One just has a viewing area and the other has a table and chairs for eating. We may just eat our breakfast out there every day for the next three years. :-)

Okay--here are a few of my favorite pictures from the past week as well. Doesn't she look so cute!! I am so glad she is here with us in Mexico!




This is from our setting apart with Elder Oaks and Elder Gonzales. We had all of our children there and my parents. It was a very sweet experience.

And I just love this picture!! All six of the grandbabies--in a circle of Love!!




Yes, I had to go off and leave these two little guys!! So sweet and precious.


Our four generation picture on the day of Emmitt's baby blessing.
 I miss them all! But tomorrow we go to church and then Monday we start regular missionary days. We are looking forward to that!

Love to you all!






Sunday, June 17, 2012

The Twins Are Here!

We have left Arizona! We actually left on Monday and have been staying in Utah this past week. Our main reason for leaving early is because . . . Kristen went from this . . .





to this!  5.12 and 5.14 pounds of joy!!


 After a five day separation during a NICU stay, they were finally reunited, and apparently glad to be so!! No matter how far a part we put them in the crib, they manage to wiggle and wiggle until they are next to each other. SO CUTE!!


I am totally in love! And Grandpa is pretty proud too!!

We have been having so much fun holding the babies. But truthfully, it breaks my heart to think about leaving them.

Still, we are grateful we have this week to be with them, since doing so brings . . . great joy to my journey!

Friday, June 1, 2012

Ten Days and Counting!!

In just ten days we will pack up our few belongings and head to Utah. We speak in church on June 10 and the next day we leave.

While in Utah we will pick up our Mexican Visa's from the consulate (Hooray!! They came on time!:-) help take care of Kristen and her twin babies that are expected to make their arrival any day now, bless three grandsons, go to the temple with a daughter for the first time, celebrate (a few days early) our 30th anniversary with our children, be set apart for our missions by Elder Oaks, and attend four days of mission president's training . . .

And then we will come home, spend the night and fly out the next morning to begin our mission.

So I cry a lot. Not the bawling your eyes out while curled up in fetal position in the corner of the room type of crying. Just the kind where your eyes fill with tears and then spill down your cheeks. I cry when I am eating lunch with a dear friend for the last time in three years, I cry when I am boxing up cherished memories. I cry when my daughter calls to tell me about her doctor's appointment and I know I will miss out on the first three years of her children's lives. And I even cry when I am at the store and a clerk asks me if I want to join their reward program and I have to say no because I am moving out of the country.

But, all my tears aside, we have had some very good things happen in our family this past month.

1. Michelle graduated from High School. She was 11th in her class and so got to sit on the front row. We are so very proud of her and know she will have a great time at BYU in the Fall (hopefully not too great a time though, as we do expect her to maintain those high grades! :-)

2. Michelle also was asked to speak at seminary graduation. It is nice that neither Wes nor I are involved in the seminary program anymore so our kids can speak without it looking like nepotism. :-) She did such a great job!! It was fun to hear her, and we appreciated all the family members who came to support.

3. And in other big news . . . our daughter Kathryn received her mission call to the Guatemala City North Mission! We are so excited for her!!  She enters the MTC on October 3, so she will be able to spend a couple months with us in Mexico before she leaves. I am so happy for that. A fun "coincidence" is that her former roommate got called on the same day to the same mission and they enter the MTC together. How nice to go on a mission with a friend!!

4. We have been able to spend some sweet time with good friends and family members. I have been "collecting" mental memories these past six months to take with me. I am grateful for the love and support of so many. Having such dear friends and loved ones here at home makes it hard to leave, but on the other hand,  I have realized how blessed we are that we have people in our lives who we love so much!

And of course I know that the next three years will bring many more wonderful people into our lives that will bless and enrich it and so I am looking forward to that . . .

Now if I can only finish getting the house packed up! :-) (Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! Susan for your help yesterday!)